My students don’t like change. It’s a little paradoxical at times, because with the same breath that they use to disparage the “we’re always doing the same stuff in here” they will say, “hey! We forgot to do the meditation at the beginning of class!” They do like routine, but they also want things new and exciting. It’s a conundrum. Though, perhaps I am being unfair. After all, aren’t we all like that?
In my Interpersonal Studies class, we learn about these mice. The mice are being tested by two different labs to examine how animals engage and explore new and somewhat scary circumstances. For the mice, it is a platform that eventually loses its walls and is just hanging above the ground with no protection. In one lab the mice are cautious, at first, but then bound up and down the new “maze” with little to no hesitation. But, in the other lab, the mice a skittish and do not venture too far from the safety of the walls if at all. At first, the scientists are stumped. These mice are from the same batch, they are fed at the same time, kept in the same laboratory conditions, etc. There is only one slight difference. In one lab, the lab assistant is allergic to mice. So they have gloves on, a mask, and handle the mice only when absolutely necessary. In the other lab, the mice are, to put it non-scientifically, much loved. They are petted and held in ungloved hands and handled for longer periods of time. Can you guess which mice were the more furtive?
What I find additionally interesting here, is that all the mice want to go down that unprotected platform, but the “untouched” mice just don’t have the courage. They don’t feel safe. Which again, seems to bring a paradox into existence – if I don’t feel safe, then I’m not going to try something dangerous. Maybe it’s the idea that you need an anchor to try something new. I will venture down this unprotected path because I trust that my protected path will be there when I get back.
We do all want new and exciting, but we also want that “secure base” that Goleman speaks of.[1] That familiar comforting place we can return to after the thrill of the new.
So it all comes down to building that base in my classroom. Which starts with building trust. Showing students that change is going to happen in life, but that doesn’t always have to be a bad thing. That they can try new things, and fail at new things, and that is just fine as long as they continue to try.
So, with that in mind, today I attempt The Bop Form. It is a relatively new form. It is, according to poets.org, a form of poetic argument. It is three stanzas long: 6 lines – 8 lines – 6 lines. The first stanza states the problem, and the second stanza explores or expands upon the problem. If there is a resolution to the problem, the third stanza finds it. If a substantive resolution cannot be made, then this final stanza documents the attempt and failure to succeed. I combined this form with another exercise I use with my students which is the personified abstract noun exercise. This has resulted in some breathtaking descriptions of such things as depression, anxiety, joy, and love from my students.[2] But I thought I would attempt it with the concept of change. Here it goes:
Change comes in like she owns the place
Ordering and reordering
She may ask your opinion,
But does she really listen?
I’m not so sure.
But, I still hope she does.
You see, Change is the boss.
She is the one making all the calls
You can run along beside
And try and keep up
Or you can stay back in the dust.
She doesn’t mind either way
What’s gonna happen is gonna happen.
And that is something you can’t change.
One thing you can do,
When it comes to change,
Is learn to accept her.
Things will go much smoother for you.
Because if you fight her?
I got news, you’re gonna lose.
[1] This phrase and the mice example come from the text we use in my class: Social Intelligence, by Daniel Goleman. [2] This exercise comes from Old Faithful: 18 Writers Present Their Favorite Writing Assignments.
Your Turn!
Stanzas: 3
Lines: 6 – 8 – 6
Breakdown: 1st – Problem; 2nd – Exploration of Problem; 3rd – Solved or Unsolved?